Time away from the girls is something I really struggle with. I don’t know if it’s just me, but I get overwhelming mum guilt and feel awful whenever I’m not with them. Over the last few years, I’ve worked with Jet2 and been away with them every year, and the children understand that I’m away for work. That feels different, almost justified.
But being away just for fun, just for me, well, that’s a completely different kettle of fish.
Since my dad passed away last year, I’ve been travelling back and forth to my parents’ home in Norfolk. Most of those visits have been practical ones, helping around the house, sorting paperwork, dealing with all the things that come with loss. Not really trips where I’ve gone simply to be with my mum. It often feels like if I’m away from the girls, it has to be because I have to be, not because I want to be. If that makes sense.
I planned a long weekend at my mum’s with one goal: self-care, quality time, and just trying to enjoy a few peaceful days together. Grief can hit hard, especially when you are hours away from people who truly understand what you are going through. Times are tough, and sometimes you just need comfort, familiarity, and space to breathe.
Safe to say, we made the absolute most of our time.
We went out for dinner, you really can’t beat seaside fish and chips, proper pie, mash and liquor, and I even brought up some oatcakes from home. Povey’s oatcakes are the best, no debate there. I live in Staffordshire, and she’s in Great Yarmouth, so it’s quite the distance, but always worth it.
We had the loveliest pampering, self-care weekend. Face masks every night, cosy evenings watching movies, we found little darlings on YouTube, which has always been our favourite film ever since I was younger. Some things never change, and I think that’s why they matter so much.
We also went to the cinema to watch Return to Silent Hill. My mum hadn’t been to the cinema in 30 years, which makes it even more special. It felt like such a treat, and we really enjoyed the film, plot twist, the ending had us SO confused!
I truly cherish these one-on-one moments with my mum, and hopefully I will be driving up next time, i havent done a big 5-hour drive yet. I passed my driving test last year, determined to do the drive this year! :)
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