According to science, the closest familial relation two people can have is between mother and daughter. Not only does a mother understand the unique challenges that women have to go through, but this helps her with ability to understand the expressions and needs of a young girl, as she’s been through it all and more.
Now, that’s not to say, adoptive mothers, fathers and sons, siblings, and other family arrangements or connections are in any way lesser, but they might not be as able to relate quite as intensely as mothers and daughters can. That connection just has a small extra element of relatability. It also doesn’t mean that any specific mother would curate and cherish this relationship perhaps quite as much as they should, which is unfortunate.
However, after hearing, this, as single dads looking after their daughters often do, it’s easy to begin wondering if you’re up to the task. A little girl holds a much different vantage point of the world compared to her grown-up father or guardian, and as a single dad, you may wonder if you can account for that. Well, don’t worry, because we’re certain your little one thinks the world of you, and certainly knows you love them. What’s more, there are millions of single Dads out there doing a phenomenal job. But if you’re looking for a little more advice regarding how to relate and how to fulfil this role with all your capability, consider the following::
Show Her Your Craft & Interests
Young girls often find their father’s professional craft to be inspiring and interesting, and so it could be a lovely way to teach her through osmosis some of the passions you’ve curated over life. That might be reading and writing, or it might be a more practical skill over one focused on the arts. For instance, when a dad shows his daughter how to change a tire or explains why he loves photography, something special happens. The actual skill matters less than the shared experience, which often means watching her eyes light up when the engine starts or seeing her frame her first shot.
Such lovely moments can build trust naturally, without forcing it. Many dads find their daughters remember these teaching moments years later, not because of what they learned, but because of how it felt to learn it together. Perhaps she’ll even go into the same field as you, or be inspired by it. That doesn’t have to be the case of course, but it’s a nice way to teach and help your child learn with confidence.
Head On Fun Trips
It’s nice to explore the world where you can, as a family or as a parent and child. Perhaps you can show them where you grew up or go to see other relatives that live a touch further out. Even having a fun day-trip schedule can be fun, be that hunting for shells at the beach, getting lost in a museum, or exploring a new hiking trail.
These trips give both father and daughter space away from daily routines where they can just be themselves, and they also allow you to book time for your little one outside of the career you work so hard at. You might also combine these trips with the families of those your daughter is friends with, allowing you to make it a little more social and open.
Understand Her Privacy & Grooming Needs
Every girl needs her own space and time to figure things out, especially as she goes through puberty. There’s no shame in it and it happens to us all, but it can feel incredibly worrying at that age. The bathroom needs to be her private zone when she wants it, but sometimes it might be more appropriate for a relative of yours, perhaps a sister or cousin you trust implicitly, or perhaps your own mother, to help her with this.
While you may feel a bit unsure, remember that open and honest communication is key. Encourage your daughter to come to you with any questions she may have, and be prepared to offer support and guidance. If she prefers to discuss certain topics with a female relative or healthcare provider, respect her wishes. This doesn't diminish your role as a father. You can still play a very important role in supporting her overall health and well-being by providing a safe and open environment for communication.
Don’t worry, there is a lot you can still do. Good dads learn about basic hair care, such as learning which shampoo is best for her, how to do a ponytail, understanding which hygienic products she needs, keeping supplies stocked before they're needed, and knowing when to give space. Having an open-door policy where she can ask any question without fear or worry is important, and shows you’re to be trusted.
Play With Toys
Any girl-dad goes through this rite of passage. If your daughter is into typical “girly” things like makeup and playing with dolls, doing so with her can be great! Sure you might prefer to watch that game on television as your first preference, but coming away looking like a beautiful fairy with layers of makeup on and painted nails can be a good laugh.
This way your daughter will know that despite you not sharing a gender, you can certainly share a great deal of fun. It also helps her learn that being open, accepting, and supportive is better than conforming to any specific ideas of what sex is interested in and what hobby. If your daughter is less of a “girly girl” and more of a tomboy, that can be great too! Just engage with her interests no matter what they are, and show her there’s nothing to be ashamed of, even if they’re a little different from her peer group.
Use Your Position To Help Her Teen Years Go Smoothly
One of the benefits a young girl-dad has is that he knows exactly what young guys are like, and this matters as they mature into their teen years. You can be the biggest advocate of your daughter (but not to an overbearing degree of course), and help her to remain confident in herself, while being able to tell the quality of her friends or those who come into their lives. Now, we’re not at all saying Moms are naive to this, but again, as a father, that relatability is much more honed. Unfortunately, teenagers of any age are impressionable and can fall victim to social difficulties like this.
Teaching her about respect happens naturally through everyday examples - how you treat people, how you expect others to treat her. Setting clear boundaries early helps her recognize when something doesn't feel right. The goal isn't to make her scared but to help her trust her instincts and know she can always come home with problems no matter what they are. It’s also very, very helpful for a young and growing woman to have an example of what an upright, respectable, diligent and emotionally open man can look like - these are not always available to her.
Pay No Heed To Ignorance, Just Love Your Child
It’s unfortunate to say, and not altogether hard to understand, but many well-meaning single-fathers online can find it hard to deal with troubled and questioning looks as a single Dad with a young daughter or daughters to care for. Parenting forums are often filled with sad questions like this, from confused Dads wondering how to present themselves or feeling worried about judgment despite doing nothing wrong.
It’s good to avoid paying heed to this - don’t let it distance you from your daughter or make you feel you have to be detached, as they are the only person who matters.
With this advice, we hope you can more easily enjoy a loving and caring relationship with your daughter and relate a little more, even if you’re a father not familiar with growing up as a girl
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